Do surrogates become attached to the baby?

When you’re a surrogate, the question usually comes up quite often. Do you get attached to the baby you’re carrying? Do you feel like it’s one of “your own”? Will you get anxiety about handing the baby over to the Intended Parents after delivery ?

The answer is usually “no”. For many women, they become surrogates because they want to fulfill the intended parents’ dreams of becoming a family. They understand that their body is performing a function that some others cannot. They realize that the baby they are helping grow will be so welcome in the arms of its intended mother and father.

“I had my own babies to come home and love on,” one surrogate mom said about the issue of becoming attached to her surrogate baby.

Many surrogate moms are also “done” growing their own family, but love the feeling of being pregnant. With surrogacy, the goal is to help families fill a void that a baby can provide. Surrogates know they are making that dream a reality.

“I’ve never had a surrogate friend that missed or longed for the baby. It’s just the way we’re wired,” she said.

In short, surrogates realize they are helping create families for couples who cannot.

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3 comments (Add your own)

1. Jesuslene wrote:
Wow, you seem to have struck a very sitvinese nerve with some of these responders, and it doesn't sound like you were trying to offend anyone simply trying to understand. I'm sorry that some of these people have responded with such hate. I've read complaints posted on Y!A by lesbians who are no longer attracted to their partners because those partners began dressing like men, so I understand your curiosity.Beetroot sounds like she has an axe to grind. Her response has very little to do with your question. It's people like her who aggravate this kind of situation.Unfortunately, I don't have an answer for your question. I'm a heterosexual and have often wondered the same thing. So has my husband. His sister is a lesbian who dresses like a guy. For example, she has full breasts, but chooses to go braless and wear men's tank tops very revealing and, therefore, offensive to the standards of the general public.I've played sports all my life and I work out, but I still look and act like a female, which is one of the ONLY TWO genders of the human species. Some of these responders need to be reminded of that. If they're not conforming to the visual role of one gender, then they're conforming to the visual role of the other. Looks like you and I aren't the only confused people on the planet!

Sun, August 5, 2012 @ 4:50 PM

2. Peter wrote:
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Wed, August 8, 2012 @ 2:22 AM

3. Samantha wrote:
How come the first two comments have nothing to do with the article? Anyway, interesting subject--Another question, although a woman feels attached doesn't mean she'll be difficult. I personally don't really understand how this happens to the extent that it has for some but I can understand why they would feel lonely afterwards-Do they offer counseling for women who do get attached?

Thu, February 28, 2013 @ 7:44 PM

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