Including the Intended Parents Throughout the Journey

Just like any parents, intended parents want to get to know their baby before he or she is ever born. The intended parents attend the doctor visits, watch the ultrasounds and listen intently to the little heartbeat.

Surrogates want the intended parents to stay involved with the baby, too. There are many ways for the intended parents to get to know their baby before the little one breathes his or her first breath.

One way is through Belly Buds ( These great devises let the intended parents record their voice. They can sing, they can read books, they can talk, they can tell them about their family, the possibilities are endless. The recorded Belly Buds can then be sent to the surrogate for her to play to the baby. The baby gets to hear his or her parents’ voices before being born. He or she will get used to the soothing voice of her parents via Belly Buds.

Another easy way to keep the intended parents involved is to text and email. It doesn’t have to be long, but a simple text about what the surrogate is craving, what she is feeling, how the baby is moving, can make an intended parents’ day.

Or a surrogate can try keeping a blog about her journey. This is a great way for the extended family of the intended parents to also be included in what’s happening with the baby. Be sure to add in photos and even videos of the journey. Once the baby arrives, printing out the blog pages and having them bound into a nice, keepsake book is a great, meaningful gift to give the intended parents.

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1 comment (Add your own)

1. Ariel wrote:
I find the responses very ssixet here!Manish:Why should it become an industry? Is sperm donation an industry? - - -PS:By your logic then, a career woman is better off than a housewife/homemaker whatever you wish to call her? Only because money is involved in one? The woman as child-bearer in a marriage does have the choice to exercise her rights. Patriarchal society may deny her those, but should she rise in revolt it is possible. My beef against this sort of surrogate motherhood is that it does not take the woman into account at all. - - -Zeemax:As in almost all cases in life, the one whose sperm results in birth is the dad. Indians and Israelis don't have to figure it out. This is not like the LoC thing, is it? The Hebrew words for father and mother are Tishrei and Cheshvan...- - -HP:Zeemax donon ka baap hai...So, is that why you invited him to your blog??

Thu, October 18, 2012 @ 2:39 PM

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